Progressivism vs. Love: The Myth of Polyamour Deciphered

If you’re a regular on social networks, or if you’re part of my generation, I think you know what I’m talking about. In recent years, we’ve seen a veritable assault on the classic couple, promoting so-called “alternative” models. In other words, it’s becoming fashionable to destroy monogamy in the West. Above all, we’re talking more and more about polyamorous or polyamorous relationships.

Polyamour : A Deceptive Utopia

What exactly is polyamory? If we look at a precise definition, here’s what it looks like: Polyamory is a type of love relationship in which partners can maintain a romantic relationship with more than one person, with the informed consent of all concerned.

Basically, it’s a romantic relationship where there are more than two people, where each can sleep with any other person in the relationship, and everyone thinks it’s great. Obviously, this is a very utopian definition, and unfortunately it hides a much darker reality.

Demystifying Polyamory: A Concealed Scam

When we sell polyamory, we use more or less the same argument, namely that the classic couple is old-fashioned, hypocritical, tyrannical and reactionary. In reality, all this hides the same project: to subject women to a tyrannical patriarchal order and lock the couple into a highly hypocritical monogamy.

The idea is to attack monogamous relationships and replace them with a more modern, egalitarian model that is supposedly more beneficial for participants. However, behind this progressive façade lie problematic dynamics and disturbing realities.

Polyamour en Pratique: Illusions and Disillusions

In the course of my research, I came across a number of reports that paint a rather idyllic picture. Watching these reports, I identified two dynamics that prove how polyamory is a lie as well as a regression, making people very unhappy.

I’ve chosen to show you two reports that demonstrate this dynamic. A Swiss TV report talks about Kim, a young woman who tells how she discovered polyamory. Basically, she’s dating five boys at once. In progressive parlance, it’s called a Polycules. Kim is obviously very happy. On the one hand, she has the men she says she “loves”, i.e. Maxence and Jean, and the three other boys for fun. Instead of choosing, we accumulate relationships.

So we see that each man fills his own little compartment, and she maximizes her chances of happiness by rationalizing her relationships, in the same way that a manager would organize his team to optimize performance. However, this leads to situations where one of the partners is clearly at a disadvantage, as shown by the case of Jean, in love with Kim, but accepting polyamory so as not to lose her.

Polyamour : A Solution for Marginals

Polyamory is the solution for the marginalized. This is essentially the desired relationship for those who don’t have access to the premium version of monogamy. We sometimes hear that very few civilizations in history have been monogamous, and that some cultures still aren’t. That’s right. But these are seldom the most advanced, women-friendly societies. Polyamory is nothing but a regression in civilization, presented as progress.

Despite the gradual push towards polyamory, there are grounds for hope. For example, my generation, that of the zoomeurs, paid a high price for the sexual revolution. And for all that, it’s increasingly aspiring to traditional values. We even anticipate that the average age at marriage for zoomers will be 27, compared to 32 for millennials, the previous generation. Gaining five years in a single generation therefore represents considerable progress.

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In the face of repeated attacks on monogamy, we can’t just defend ourselves. We need to reaffirm this model, revitalize it and show that it is not only preferable, but also the best. Monogamy is the magic formula for mixing two very different substances, man and woman, and keeping them together for a long time.

The problem with monogamy is that the culture teaches you to express your potential as a man, and in exchange, you’re guaranteed to pass on to the next generation and have a wife. It’s an exceptional vector of progress for a civilization. My personal conviction is that monogamy has been one of the secrets of the power and brilliance of Western civilization.

Finally, despite the gradual push towards polyamory, there are grounds for hope. For example, my generation, that of the zoomeurs, paid a high price for the sexual revolution. And for all that, it’s increasingly aspiring to traditional values. We even anticipate that the average age at marriage for zoomers will be 27, compared to 32 for millennials, the previous generation. Gaining five years in a single generation therefore represents considerable progress.

We must not be lulled into complacency by the propaganda of our enemies. No, we don’t want their mental mush and their sordid, boring world. Our aim is to restore nobility to our civilization by shaping strong, courageous, virtuous and solid men and women.